The action I choose is divorce. In my opinion, this action is wrong. My first cousin’s parents filed for a divorce. He’s the cousin whom I am closet to so this makes the matter of divorce somewhat personal to me. It caused a lack of a father figure for him. He has never told me anything about this, but I figured it out based on the way he acts. For example, talking about his “real” dad is taboo. Every time the topic is about his “real” dad, he becomes sad. When he mentions it, he refers to his real dad as his “old dad”. In addition to this, he always tells me how he and his dad now argue about small things and how his dad now favors his little sister.
Yes, there are situations wherein this action is considered wrong but neither bad nor sinful. To qualify for the action to be sinful, the actor could freely choose to do or not to do the action, and was not influenced by coercion or fear. Having this in mind, take for example a woman who is beaten up constantly. The woman can freely choose to do or not to do action; however, she wants to file for a divorce due to fear that her husband will not stop beating he. Because of the influence of fear, we cannot say that this act is sinful, but rather a natural defense mechanism.
In my opinion, I am a moral evaluativist. I take the general principal of the church in my mind, while I also reflect on the situation. This can be seen in the way I talked question number 2.
If a friend came to me for advice, I will not directly mention anything about how the Church believes what marriage should because this will give make it look like a lecture. I’d slowly suggest ways of seeing the problem then I will incorporate factors that I learned from my CLE class – the Roads of Reason, Caution, and Suspicion.
It’s kind of hard to explain how it will go so I will create a conversation below to show how I’ll tackle it.
Imaginary guy’s name is Bob. Imaginary girl’s name is Bea.
Bob: Hey Miki!
Me: Hey Bob! What’s up?
Bob: I’m thinking of having a divorce with my wife.
Bob: It’s kind of hard to explain.
Me: Well … I think you should think about the situation if it’s really the right thing to do or not. I think you should reflect on the real motive of why you’re filing for a divorce. Since from what I know, basing your decision solely on pleasure or to avoid pain is the wrong way to go about things.
Bob: I don’t think I’m doing anything wrong so there’s not much point in reflecting on my motives.
Me: Yah. I kind of know what you’re feeling but it’s not really a good thing to do. If you aren’t sure if your act is wrong or not, assume it’s wrong; by doing so, you’ll be able to reflect on the real motives of your action, then decide for yourself if you should carry on with your decision.
Bob: I think I’ll do that. I’ll get back to you when I’ve made up my mind.
Me: All right. Bye.
Bob : Bye